Talk About It Tuesday - Lupus Tip of the Week: Manage Your Blood Pressure

The America Heart Association has outlined key steps you can take to control your blood pressure:

• Eat a better diet, which may include reducing salt
• Enjoy regular physical activity
• Maintain a healthy weight
• Manage stress
• Avoid tobacco smoke

By adopting a heart-healthy lifestyle, you can reduce high blood pressure, prevent or delay the development of HBP, enhance the effectiveness of blood pressure medications and lower your risk of heart attack, heart disease, stroke and kidney disease. For more information read the chat transcript from Cardiovascular Health and Lupus with Dr. Amy H. Kao.

If you find no comfort in any of the above, you better pray. No, really. Studies show that people who engage in religious activities have lower blood pressure. Check out this article from webmd.com.

Monday's Moment With Business Owner LaToya Young

It's been quite some time since I've posted...well, anything really. So I am thrilled to introduce you to a mighty woman of God. This Monday we have business owner, Evangelist-Elect LaToya A. Young!

A dynamic preacher and teacher in her own right, a savvy businesswoman, wife and mother. Evangelist-Elect Latoya A. Young is an up-and-coming voice in the Kingdom. She accepted the divine call to preach the Gospel to all nations in October 2004. She received her ministerial license in June of 2010.

In 2007, Relax Relate Release Ministries (RRR) was birthed as a vehicle to reach women who need to be spiritually restored, refreshed, and renewed. A true visionary, the Lord has given her out-of-the-box ideas and has placed several businesses in her spirit which will be birthed at the appointed time. She is the creative mind behind the RRR Newsletter and the CEO of So Favored, The Event Management Group.

She currently serves at Another Level Ministries under the leadership of Pastor Ishmael and Elder Rochelle Wilson. Evangelist Latoya is an atmosphere changer and commands attention with her bold and powerful delivery of the Word. She is a trailblazer, a prophetic voice in this hour called out to lead, to shake the foundations, and plant a seed of truth.

She is determined to live life at Another Level and understands that her time is NOW!

Tell us about Relax Relate Release.

Well, Relax Relate Release Ministries started out as a vision that the Lord gave me to open my own day spa. I received this vision in February of 2006. I had never desired to open a spa so I knew that this vision was from the Lord. I began to write down what the Lord had spoken to me and make preparations. But at the time I felt that the task was too overwhelming and I slowed down on the progress that I was making. In August of 2007, the Lord spoke to me again and I started writing a women’s newsletter titled Relax Relate Release. I sent this newsletter to 25 of my closest friends and family and today, three years later, I have a distribution list of over 350 women and that newsletter grew into the awesome ministry that I have today. I am so grateful to the Lord, He is so good! The day spa has yet to come into fruition but I am standing in great expectation. Although I didn’t open the spa in 2006, RRR Ministries was birthed in the midst. Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Is there anything you find particularly challenging in your ministry?

Because I am an Evangelist, I have a heart for people, especially those who are hurting, confused, and discouraged. My ministry is geared to women. I find it especially challenging to reach out to the women in an effort to draw them together in unity. I also find it challenging not to get emotionally connected. I can remember being over the dance ministry at my former church and I loved the girls so much. I was so emotionally connected to them and wanted the very best for them. God had to remind me not to get my emotions connected to my assignment.

What 3 nuggets of wisdom would you offer to someone just starting out in ministry?

Wow, that’s a great question. I would say:

1. Know who you are in God and what He has called you to do. Oftentimes we start out in ministry and we don’t have clarity on what it is God called us to do thus we end up conforming to what others think about us or trying to be like the next ministry around the corner. Seek the Lord for clarity on what your assignment is and remain true to that regardless of what others have to say. God might be calling you to do something that has never been done before. You can’t accomplish the greater works if you don’t tap into what is unique about you.
2. Remember to remain a humble servant. The Bible says that “many are called but few are chosen”. Always remember that God chose you to do a great work but he didn’t have to. It’s not about you but it’s about fulfilling the will of the father; KINGDOM BUILDING! The moment you start to think it’s about you, it’s time to step back and reflect on whom and whose you are! I never take the opportunity to minister lightly. I always count it a privilege because he deemed me worthy enough to be used.
3. If no one else encourages you, learn to encourage yourself. Oftentimes in ministry we can get weary in our well doing. There are many people who love to benefit from what you have to offer but there are very few who will encourage and support you along your journey. Sometimes it’s nice to hear someone say that you blessed them with your sermon or your prayers helped them make it just one more day. Reading the Word of God encourages me and lets me know that if no one else tells me I’m doing a great job, God is well pleased!

I think we can all agree that at some point in our lives we go through tough times. From where or whom do you get support and encouragement?

Yes, I have been through many trying times along the way. But my relationship with the Lord has been my greatest asset. Every tear I cried in the late hours of the night, God heard them. Every time I didn’t understand, God knew. I always draw my support and encouragement from my husband, my mother and my family and close friends. My husband has been a great support, confidant and friend. He tells me when I need to slow down and put it all in perspective and when I need to kick into overdrive and pursue what God has called me to. My mother is such a jewel in that she never judges me and she ALWAYS understands.

Do you have a favorite Scripture or one that you find particularly uplifting?

I do. Luke 14:11 “For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”

If someone were to write a book on your life, what would the title be, and why?

The Evolution of Latoya A. Young – I chose this title because I think it would sum up my journey from birth, to being born again, to my trials and valley experiences, to my deeper relationship with the Lord, to my place of being free in who God Called me to be. I have evolved into an awesome woman of God but I am still evolving, growing and maturing as God takes me to higher heights and deeper depths.

In your article entitled It's Time to Speak Up, you stated that God desires for us to look at our future and not at our current situation. What future do you see for Relax Relate Release?

Ahhh, I see GREAT THINGS AHEAD! I see RRR Ministries being a global ministry bringing forth healing and deliverance in the lives of women everywhere. RRR is the catalyst for many great things that the Lord has for me to accomplish.

What else do you want readers to know?

Just because it hasn’t happened yet, doesn’t mean it’s not going to happen. DON’T GIVE UP! If God gives you a vision and you know that you know that you know, don’t put it down regardless of what others have to say. MOVE FORWARD IN FAITH.

How can readers reach you and find out more about your ministry (e-mail, website,etc)?

Website: www.allaboutrrr.com

Emails: info@allaboutrrr.com subscribe@allabutrrr.com if you would like to sign up to receive the newsletter

sofavoredevents@gmail.com - So Favored, the Event Management Group

Talk About It Tuesday - Explaining Lupus to Children

Having two children of my own, I found this article published by the Lupus Foundation of America very helpful. Check it out!

Explaining Lupus to Children

You have lupus and you don't understand it -- How can you explain it to your children?

By Robert H. Phillips, Ph.D.
Center for Coping with Chronic Conditions

This is a very common problem. How should you explain lupus to your children? For young children, less of an explanation will be possible, perhaps only including some reassurance that you'll be OK. With older children, explanations can be more detailed. Encourage questions. If your children really don't want to ask you anything, they won't. But they know they can if they want to. Upsetting thoughts kept inside can be destructive.

Questions from older children will probably be more direct and more specific. Resulting discussions, if handled properly, will not only be helpful for your children, you'll enjoy them. Great feelings of closeness can result.

The way you answer questions depends on the age of your child as well as how much information is desired. Provide answers specifically for the questions. Don't go into detail, unless your child asks for more information. Try to determine what the child really wants to know.

Be careful that you don't frighten your child. Be careful of what you say. You know what you mean, but how will it be interpreted in your child's head? Think how you want your information received.

You want your child to share feelings with you about lupus. Showing that you accept having lupus, and that you don't mind (and even welcome) questions about it, will keep the lines of communication open.

Specific Issues

Frequently, children will ask you (or think about) whether you're going to die. They may see you in bed a lot. They can tell you're not able to do what you normally do. You may be having difficulty "getting around" adequately. You may need a lot of medical attention. What you say then? Reassure them that you're not going to die. It might be helpful to bring them with you to speak to a professional (your physician or your child's pediatrician, for example).

What happens if lupus physically prevents you from being a "good parent" as you'd like to be? How do you explain to your child that you can't take him/her somewhere, or that you can't do what you promised?

Children don't want to understand when they're upset. Start by emphasizing that you have no choice. Try to make "deals". Remind your children repeatedly that there may be times that you won't be able to do much. Work out ways that some pleasant time can be enjoyed together when you do feel up to it.

Spending "quality" time with your children (special time where you really share feelings and activities) is more important than "quantity" time (how many minutes or hours you're physically with them). Spending quality time, talking with your children, and being open and receptive are the most important ingredients in helping your children handle your having lupus.

Monday's Moment With Author Paulette Harper Johnson

Join me in welcoming author Paulette Harper Johnson to Hold Your Hope!

Who is Paulette Harper Johnson?

Paulette Harper Johnson is a wife, mother, grandmother, writer, speaker and child of God. I am the visionary behind “Write Now” releasing the word in you literary workshops. Workshops designed to coach aspirating authors in the areas of creativity, development and publication of Christian books.

Can you tell us what your latest book, Completely Whole, is all about and what you hope readers will take away from it?

Completely Whole brings to light those issues that have blocked our path to total wholeness. Everyone desires to be whole and embedded within Completely Whole are keys that will assist the reader in identifying, facing and eventually conquering those places that have kept them from walking in wholeness. Areas that have been a constant struggle for one to obtain victory, be it forgiveness, substance abuse, or divorce. Completely Whole deals with the whole man spirit, soul and body.

3 John reads “The Pastor, to my good friend Gaius: How truly I love you! We're the best of friends, and I pray for good fortune in everything you do, and for your good health—that your everyday affairs prosper, as well as your soul!” It is the desire of God that we prosper spirit, soul and body.

What I want readers to take away when they read Completely Whole?

My focus in writing is to enrich the lives of my readers. I had a reader make this comment about Completely Whole “It speaks” and that’s what I want it to do. I want them to come away knowing that they have the ability to live a full enriched life.

I want to make several impacts on readers: First I write non-fiction inspirational books so this means my books should have a lasting effect on a person’s spirit. Inspiring and encouraging them to pursue with passion a better fulfilled life. I want my writings to give strength, encouragement in the time of need. As they read Completely Whole, I want my writings to engage, stimulate and edify them spiritually.

If someone were to write a book on your life, what would the title be, and why?

WOW that’s a hard question. I like the title “A life preserved” I pick this title because this is exactly what God has done in my life. He has preserved me for the season I’m living in right now. Years ago going through one of the most challenging times I felt my life was pretty much over. I faced great insurmountable odds of every recovering from the loss of family, ministry and close friends. Yet God in His infinite wisdom knows how to pick up a shattered life and bring one to a place of restoration. When all hope was gone and life became unbearable, God stepped in and not only intervened but has totally transformed my life better than I could have ever imagined. A life preserved for such a time as this.

What 3 nuggets of wisdom would you offer an aspiring writer?

Three things I would give new authors: First is to be patient. Connecting with your audience and branding yourself will take time. Especially for new writers, the market is flooded with books for readers to choose from so by keeping this in mind you must be able to patiently wait your time to shine.

Secondly: I would suggest promote, promote, promote. I can’t stress that enough. Your book/books will stay alive as long as you keep them if front of your audience. No one is best suited than you to promote and market your products. If writing is your passion you will continue promoting and marketing your books even when it appears no one is buying.

Thirdly: Use social networks to connect with readers. By joining social networks it presents a platform for you to share with your readers your events or next book release. Readers must be able to find you either on your website or any social network you have joined.

Had you not followed your dream/answered your call and become a writer, what career path do you think you would have taken?

Right now I’m living in my purpose. I’m a minister, inspirational speaker and life coach. Had I not answered the call to write, I believe a void would have been in my life. Actually writing was birth from the personal pain I went through years ago. My first book “That Was Then, This Is Now” came out of going through a devastating divorce.

What has been your most memorable encounter with a reader so far?

The most memorable encounter with a reader was when I received an email telling me how my first book That Was Then, This is Now brought her comfort. She had been going through some hard times and my book brought her encouragement amidst her difficulties.

Has a review or profile ever changed your perspective on your work?

Not at all. Actually when I hear how my writing has made an impact on someone’s life, that is so rewarding to me. These types of testimonies keep me wanting to put more quality books in the market.

In an interview with Books In Sync, you were quoted as saying that you chose to write non-fiction inspirational books because "There is a need for people to be inspired and encouraged." I wholeheartedly agree. Can you tell us who or what you read for inspiration and encouragement?

I generally read books written by other inspirational speakers such as TD Jakes, Joyce Meyers, Miles Monroe just to name a few. I’ve grown to enjoy some Christian fiction, those stories that have a restoration message will get my attention.

What is your HIGHEST HOPE for your writing career/ministry?

My highest hope for my writing career is to write full time. I would love to devote all my energy to writing and speaking through workshops, seminars and conferences.

What else do you want readers to know?

On a personal note: I enjoy jazz and gospel music. I love playing cards especially spades. I love traveling. I am also a licensed and ordained minister.

Literary speaking: I would love to do a book discussion with your book club and or women’s group. I am available for a phone chat and teleconferences. Visit my website for all events, speaking engagements, workshops and book signings (I might be in your area) I’d love to meet those who have embraced my writing without them there is absolutely no reason to continue writing.

I’m currently working on two projects. Victoria Living for Moms which is an anthology is slated for release in May 2011 and my own book For Such a Time as This will also be released in 2011.

How can readers reach you and find out more about your books (e-mail, website,etc)

There are excerpts and reviews of my books on my website:

www.pauletteharper.com and I’m on facebook under Paulette Harper-Johnson

And via e-mail: info@pauletteharper.com

I also have a blog Empowered to Proper which I am a blog tour host: www.pauletteharper.blogspot.com

Korika, I want to thank you for the invitation to be featured on your blog. It truly has been a tremendous blessing.

Wednesday's Words of Wisdom - Listen to Your Doctor!

This post is coming so late in the evening because I have been ill for about a week now. I'm to a point now where I can at least sit up for spells during the day. Even sitting for short periods is painful though. As I sit perched in front of my computer, I wonder if I brought this on myself.

How many of you have ever sought out the counsel of your doctor only to have what he or she said go in one ear and out the other? He tells you to take your medication at the same time everyday. You say you really don't need it. You don't notice it working anyway. She tells you it would probably do your body good to avoid dairy products. You ask who is she to try and come between you and your favorite Chocolate Almond Chunk ice cream.

Earlier this year, I was admitted to the hospital because of Acute Pancreatitis. Several weeks prior, the Lord spoke the word "Pancreatitis" into my spirit and I did nothing about it. Had I listened to The Doctor, I probably would have saved myself weeks of horrible pain.

I will be the first to say that doctors don't know everything, but I will admit that they know alot. And you must find them pretty knowledgeable also to even give them a chance in the first place. So Wednesday word to the wise: LISTEN TO YOUR DOCTOR!

If you feel you need a second opinion, consult The Doctor - Jesus Christ - The Great Physician! You never have to make an appointment, the office is never closed, there is no co-payment, and most importantly, He never has a misdiagnosis.

Talk About It Tuesday - Lupus Tip of the Week - FATIGUE (LFA DC/MD/VA)

Fatigue is a common obstacle faced by lupus patients. Below are some tips to help you sleep well and feel better:

1. Pace yourself. Follow an hour or two of activity with 15 to 20 minutes of rest.

2. Get a good night's sleep. Less than 7 hours of sleep can drain your energy and induce fatigue.

3. Exercise will promote overall physical and mental well being that will allow you to fully relax when resting.

Learn more about the benefits of sleep at our upcoming Baltimore Symposium on Saturday, October 2 when Dr. Michael Smith presents, "Tired of Lupus, Sleep Better Feel Better." Register now!

Monday's Moment With Author Michelle Sutton

Michelle Sutton is the author of over a dozen edgy inspirational novels releasing through 2012. She is also a member of ACFW, an avid book reviewer and blogger, the mother of two college students, the wife to wonderful man for two decades, and a follower of Jesus Christ.

I recently had a chance to talk with Michelle about her novel, Never Without Hope.

Synopsis:

Hope believes she is above sexual temptation; that she would never break that commandment like her husband's previous wives had done. After all, she is a good Christian and a loving mother. She has no reason to stray . . . until her husband starts neglecting her needs and things begin to look hopeless. Though she clearly communicates her pain to her husband, he refuses to get help. She starts to wonder… Will she never have sex with her husband again? She soon learns that she, too, is capable of such betrayal when she succumbs to the unthinkable.

But things that first seemed sweet and reasonable given her painful situation soon produce a bitter taste when combined with the overwhelming guilt. No substitute will ever replace her love and desire for her husband. If only he would touch her like he used to. If only they could make love again. She misses him so much and wants to tell him the truth hoping it will propel him to do something to fix their problem, but she fears his rejection. Steeped in the quagmire of adultery, Hope must find her way back to solid ground to save her marriage. But will she lose everyone she loves in the process?

Michelle, can you tell us how long you've been writing professionally, and how your journey led to writing your latest book, Never Without Hope?

I started writing in August of 2003, but it was a hobby until I seriously tried to sell my first book in 2004. I have gotten bolder over the years in regards to subject matter and this latest project is the result of that. Like any married couple, my husband and I have had our struggles, so I simply took a situation that all couples experience at one time or another – like feeling rejected in bed – and made a novel out of what might happen if things weren't going well for a couple in the bedroom and the wife decided to fix things herself. It turns out to be a mess, of course.

What do you hope readers will take away from it?

I hope readers will experience through Hope that the grass is not greener on the other side of the hill. In fact, though the grass looks mighty tempting, playing on it will get you dirty and stain your life in a way that will never be totally rectified, even when forgiveness comes. But I also want readers to see that God is able to heal any marriage if He is included in it, despite what most people believe.

At what point in your life did you realize that writing was your "thing"?

When I had my mid-life crisis in my 30's.

I understand that you learned to write mainly from reading a lot of well-written fiction. Name 3 authors you enjoy reading.

It's impossible for me to name only three favorites. I have about fifty favorite authors and narrowing the list down to three would be too hard because I read over a hundred novels a year and am discovering new authors I like at every turn. There is a lot of talent out there in the Christian fiction world these days.

What is something about yourself that most people would be surprised to know?

My mother was a nun.

What 3 nuggets of wisdom would you offer an aspiring writer?

Be patient. Keep writing. Don't stop until something sells.

If someone were to write a book on your life, what would the title be, and why?

Up until I was saved I would have titled it… Looking for Love in all the Wrong Places. I think that title is self-explanatory. But now that I've been a Christian for 25 years I'd have to say I would title it… Struck Down, But Not Destroyed. This is because the enemy has hit me hard over the years and attacked my life from every possible angle, but as long as I look to Jesus and serve Him only, He can make something beautiful from all of my hurts and mistakes. Only He can transform a broken life into something worthwhile.

What is your HIGHEST HOPE for your writing career?

To know that without a doubt lives have been touched in some way and possibly even changed because God gave me stories to write that He wanted people to read and I was obedient to that calling.

Any closing thoughts or comments for readers?

No. Thanks for the interview!

Thank you, Michelle. It was great having you! Would you like to tell readers how they can reach you and find out more about your books? (e-mail, website, etc.)

http://www.michellesutton.net

mailto:michelle@michellesutton.net

http://edgyinspirationalauthor.blogspot.com

http://edgychristianfictionlovers.ning.com

Freestyle Friday - Today's Inspirational Quote

It's Friday. I think I have the flu so I'm gonna make this quick.

"Don't ask for a light load, but rather ask for a strong back." ~ Anonymous

I'm out!

Thursday's Deep Thought - Take the High Road!

Have you ever wondered why you have to be the "better person"? Why you have to always "take the high road"? This morning I foolishly engaged in "heated fellowship" with someone I love dearly. How it came to that, I really don't know. Something was done improperly. I politely asked that it not happen again. Ask and you shall receive, right. We owe it to our friends to always speak truth, right? I was told that it was an honest mistake, which I understood, but by that time I guess I had offended my friend deeply. Because before I knew what was happening voices were raised and I was glowering like Andrea the Angry.

Now, I will be the first to admit that we are responsible for our own actions, so I can't say that I was provoke. To take from my recent interview with Inspirational Speaker, Business Coach, Author and Entrepreneur Ken Brown, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it." That's Ken's mantra and invoked today's deep thought.

Just think where we'd be had Jesus gotten so angry on the day of his crucifixion, when he was beaten and flogged, that he decided angrily, "Forget that! I'm not gonna take this anymore. I don't deserved this!" Afterall, He'd chosen to bear the guilt of the our sins. He didn't have to do it, but He did. He died so that we may live. So why not live in harmony?

I didn't deserve to be spoken to the way that I was spoken to, but did I really have to go there just because someone else went there? If Jesus can cry out, "Father! Into your hands I commit my spirit!" surely I can cry out, "Father! Out of my heart and into your hands I commit this offense!"

So if you have indeed ever wondered why you have to be the "better person" or why you have to always "take the high road," the answer is clear if you are a child of God: Jesus died for you to have the opportunity to be the better person and for that you should be grateful; and you should take the high road because Jesus's message that fateful day is of the pursuit of holiness that can only be reached by following His example - the perfect example. 

So put your pride aside and prepare for a glorious ride...down the high road!  

Wednesday's Words of Wisdom - Keep Going!

Wisdom is the sharing of wise experiences and knowledge, but a lot of it is common sense. The difference is how we apply this common sense - we all have the ability to keep going even when we face challenges in our lives - basically it comes down to your attitude.

We can have a positive attitude towards life, or a negative attitude. We can focus on the good or we can focus on the bad. Keeping a positive mental attitude is one of the keys to success.

The choice is always up to you!
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Talk About It Tuesday - Share Your Laughable Lupie Stories

How would you like to share your Laughable Lupie Stories with friends and family? Whether you frightened some poor kid, all swollen on Prednisone, went Prednisone postal on someone, or pushed way pass your physical limits and the joke was on you, living with lupus provides many unbelieveable moments to share. If you have a story, I'd love to hear from you. Send your e-mails to korika@korikajohnson.

Once in a while, I'll publish your stories in my newsletter, The Beacon of H.O.P.E. (Helping Other People Endure).

A special thank you to everyone who decides to share!

Freestyle Friday: Show and Tell

I remember when I sent out my first query letter to an agent for representation. I was ecstatic when she contacted me by e-mail to request the first three pages of my manuscript. I eagerly sent of my baby - the first book I'd written (that is yet to be published). I then phoned my husband to tell him the good news, and that we needed to celebrate. I knew I had just found the path to my writing journey!

How wrong I was.

A few weeks later, I received another e-mail from the agent, thanking me for allowing her to see part of the manuscript, and letting me know how sorry she was that she could not represent me. Her reasoning was that my book needed "more work"; it was "far too long for a first novel, and there is also too much telling and not enough showing," she'd said.

That was years ago. I've published my novel, Joy Comes in the Mourning, since then. A recent reviewer even said, "This book is immaculately written and edited. The author did a wonderful job of painting the scenes in abolute pristine imagery, giving the reader insight as if they were in the room."

However, I am not convinced that I got it right. At least not at home.

Recently, my nine year old, who had been with my aunt for a day of visiting the sick and shut-in, told me that they went to see about an elderly woman who told her that she loved her. "That woman doesn't even know me," my daughter said. I was stunned, because I'd told my daughters many, many times to follow the command to "love your neighbor as you love yourself". Even if they didn't like their behavior or even know them peronally. It's what Christ calls us to do.

That made me wonder. Have I been doing too much telling and not enough showing? After all, wasn't it just yesterday at her doctor's appointment where I expressed tolerance with the receptionist in deeds, but expressed intolerance with her in my words just as soon as we made it back to the car?

Do as I say, not as I do was the awful message I sent to her with my actions. When I know that Christ's message is for us to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. The message my actions sent to me was, just like that first manuscript, I need more work. And I thank God that he who began a good work in me will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus!

Happy Friday! Today...I'm working on me!

Ups and Downs

Just wanted to share a word from my devotional this morning.

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. - Psalm 30:5 KJV

Relationships have their ups and downs. A thoughtless comment, the wrong tone of voice, or even a look can wound us. But when tempers cool and reason returns, the disagreement usually proves to have been a waste of precious time and emotion.

The same thing happens in our relationship with God. We get angry with Him, and He probably gets angry with us, but we both are quick to forgive. It's hard to stay angry with someone who loves you totally, no matter how foolishly you act.

Learn to Tame Your Tongue!

I have to say that when I sat down to think about Wednesday's Words of Wisdom, it wasn't all that hard to come up with something to say. See, this past weekend I attended my very first All White Party. It was an elaborate birthday celebration held at the home of a relative. Divine food, live music, and crazy fun. I made my way to a room where there was a spread of everything from tender spare ribs to succulent seafood salad.

I stood in line patiently. I stood a little longer. Then I stood even longer. That's when I realized that what I initially thought was a line ahead of me was instead a small group having a great time eating in front of the table. So I cautiously stepped around them.

That's when it happened.

As I scooped seafood salad onto my plate, a young lady said loudly, "Okay, let's just be petty. Be petty like her and cut in front of the line. Let's just bypass the meat and go straight for the salad."

As her friends laughed, I wondered. When did we stop listening to our mothers? Or had this woman, who obviously wasn't family naturally or spiritually, ever been taught that she shouldn't say anything if she didn't have anything nice to say?

I know that I've grown in my love walk because I simply spun around and headed for the patio, where I reclaimed my seat. About ten minutes into the meal, I noticed who I believed to be the young lady shooting off at the mouth minutes earlier (I wasn't sure because I didn't even bother to look up at her), dancing alone.

Wednesdays Words of Wisdom, which I probably should have shared with the young lady, is: If you have to shoot off at the mouth, aim for the glory of God.

"A man has joy by the answer of his mouth. And a word spoken in due season, how good it is!" ~ Proverbs 15:23

Learn to tame your tongue!

Talk About it Tuesday - The Lupus Recovery Diet

Okay, it's Tuesday. I've set aside Tuesday on my blog as a special day to discuss everything lupus-related (events, news, and other various). Today I want to share an e-mail that I received from Jill Harrington, author of The Lupus Recovery Diet. If you have been diagnosed with lupus and have yet to purchase the book, I have one question for you: WHAT ARE YOU WAITING ON? The Lupus Recovery Diet is a must-have book for every lupus patient. I have included the e-mail in it's entirety below:

Dear Korika,

I received another "good news" email that I wanted to share with you - to encourage you to keep giving diet changes a try:

"Hello Jill,

I don’t have any questions but I must tell you that once the doctors said it looks like lupus I ordered your book and have changed my diet. Six months into the change my symptoms have disappeared and I am no longer in pain and exhausted all the time. I can tell when I have over done it and get extra rest. I am back to running and exercising like I did before all this started and as a bonus have lost 20 lbs.

Now at 36 I have hope where before I felt like I was doomed to a life of exhaustion and feelings of being unwell. But not anymore!!!

Thanks, Kathy" (her name changed for privacy)

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I also wanted to let you know that I am about to start a Blog. What's a Blog? A Blog is an online website where I can put articles and videos and random news - for you to read and share with others. It's harder to set up than I thought it would be... but it will worth it... I know you'll love it. Watch for it soon (maybe next week, keep your fingers crossed).

All the best,

Jill
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To learn more about The Lupus Recovery Diet, visit http://www.lupusrecoverydiet.com/.

Monday's Moment With Author Tiffany L. Warren

Anyone who knows me well knows that I love a good read. So when a fellow church member and friend walked up to me, slapped a book in my hand, and said, "There ain't that much love in the world!" my curiousity was piqued. The book, which led to the creation of our church book club, Righteous Readers), was What a Sistah Should Do. The way in which the characters dealt with their unthinkable situations was one of the greatest displays of love and forgiveness I'd ever heard of. The author, who has become one of my absolute favorites is Bestselling Christian Fiction Author, Tiffany L. Warren.

Her debut novel, What a Sista Should Do, was released in June of 2005 and has ministered to over 50,000 readers. Her second book, Farther than I Meant to Go, Longer than I Meant to Stay was a national bestseller. In 2006, Tiffany and her husband, Brent, founded Warren Productions and released their first gospel musical. What a Sista Should Do - The Stage Play debuted in Cleveland, OH at the famed Allen Theatre.

Tiffany writes fiction for young adults under the pen name Nikki Carter. The So For Real series was released in 2009, and her new series Fab Life will be available starting in the fall of 2010.

Tiffany is also the visionary behind the Faith and Fiction Fellowship tour. Presently, the authors have visited groups in Atlanta, Houston, New York, Baltimore, Washington D.C. and Charlotte.

Tiffany's third novel, The Bishop's Daughter was released in January 2009. Her newest release, In the Midst of it All is available everywhere books are sold.

Tiffany resides in northern Texas with her husband Brent and their five children.

Get ready to share a brief moment with Tiffany as she chats about everything from her latest book, In the Midst of it All, to her most memorable fan encounter!

About In the Midst of it All

All her life, Zenovia has struggled with the burden of caring for her schizophrenic mother, Audrey, alone. Until one day, God seems to offer support in the form of two members of a church called the Brethren of the Sacrifice, who knock at the women's door preaching an unconventional version of the Gospel. Despite having questions, Zenovia agrees to join the church along with her mother. Soon afterward, Audrey stops taking her medication when fellow churchgoers deem her illness a demonic possession. Unable to watch her mother's mental deterioration, Zenovia flees town, only to receive a fateful phone call several years later telling her of her mother's suicide. Heartbroken, Zenovia must now make a soul-altering choice: accept "God's will," or return home to confront the demons she's worked so hard to leave behind....

Welcome to Hold Your Hope, Tiffany. Can you tell us what inspired you to write this particular book and what message you hope readers will take away from it?

I wrote In the Midst of it All for a couple of reasons. I’m a huge advocate for Mental Health issues in the African American community. I don’t feel like we do a good enough job addressing those needs in our families and communities. Also, I was raised in a church similar to the Brethren. I think those cult-like churches that masquerade as Christianity are very dangerous.

At what point in your life did you realize that writing was your "thing"?
Very, very early on. I’ve been writing since I could hold a pen. I remember my middle school English teacher encouraging me in that direction! My first book has Mr. Thurman in the acknowledgements. I got my first writing paycheck at the age of 16 when I wrote an essay for a contest in my hometown newspaper. Suffice it to say, I got the writing bug early!

What's a typical day like for Tiffany L Warren?
I work full time outside of my writing career, so days are really busy. I go to work, come home fix a quick dinner and help with homework. Then, I try to squeeze writing time in every day. It doesn’t always happen, though.

If someone were to write a book on your life, what would the title be, and why?
Diary of an Overworked Black Woman! LOL.

What 3 nuggets of wisdom would you offer an aspiring writer?
Write because you love literature – not because you think it’s a new hustle or come up, READ something, take a craft class – no one takes you seriously if you don’t know the basics, no matter how good your ideas are.

What has been your most memorable fan encounter so far?
I met this lady at the Faith and Fiction Retreat in Orlando. She broke down in tears and hugged me! It was very surreal and humbling. Writing Christian Fiction opens you up to ministering to the reader. The reader really feels connected if you speak to their specific struggle. Something in my book spoke to her spirit, and that is amazing to me.

Has a review or profile ever changed your perspective on your work?
No. I understand that what I write is not for everyone. I just wish that readers understood that. Books should be reviewed based on literary merit, style, plots, characterization, or something like that. A person saying, “I didn’t like this book, it’s not what I’m used to” and giving it a 1-star on Amazon.com is not really a valid review. No one likes everything they read. I’ve read many well written books that just didn’t resonate with me as a reader. I wouldn’t give them a bad review based on that.

In a recent interview with EKG Literary Magazine, you stated that had you not followed your dreams as a teen and become a writer you would be doing something related to food or travel. What is one of your culinary classics and if you could travel to any destination in the world, where would you go?
I cook a lot of really good food. I am a foodie. I really make great soul food. Fried or Smothered Chicken, Rice and Gravy, Macaroni & Cheese, Candied Yams and Collard Greens or Smothered Cabbage is a typical soul food menu I’d bring out. I also make a slamming pound cake and Red Velvet cake. My top destination right now is the Amalfi Coast in Italy. I’m saving for that! My husband and I would love to spend some time in Portofino and on the Island of Capri.

What is your HIGHEST HOPE for your writing career?
That I am able to continue to do what I love and share these stories that I love so much. I’d love to be able to write full time and make a living from it, so we’ll see what unfolds.

What else do you want readers to know?
That I really, really love to hear from them! I enjoy feedback, testimonies and invitations to book clubs. Connecting with readers is my favorite part of all this.

How can readers reach you and find out more about your books (e-mail, website,etc)?
There are excerpts of my books on www.tiffanylwarren.com and I’m on Facebook (look for me under Tiffany L. Warren). I also write books for young adults under pen name Nikki Carter. Please check those books out on www.kensingtonbooks.com. They’re really positive and I’ve gotten great feedback from teens so far.

Thanks for stopping by, Tiffany! I wish you continued success!

LFA DC/MD/VA Lupus Tip of the Week - For those taking Prednisone

Okay, here are your weekly lupus tips:

• Try to never miss a daily dose
• Always try to take Prednisone in the morning
• Prednisone may increase your appetite, so stick to a strict diet to avoid weight gain
• There is a high risk of osteoporosis, so drink milk, eat cheese, and consider calcium supplements. Additionally, try to do some type of weight-bearing exercise (running, walking, weight-lifting, or aerobics) five times a week.
• Wear a medical alert bracelet in case of emergency
• Alert your primary care physician immediately in case of infection

Featured Book Review - An Oldie But Goodie

Okay, so I normally wouldn’t dare think to post a book review of a book this dated. But during one of my recent visits to the library, I browsed the library bookstore (Novel Endings), and was drawn to a book entitled, The Shirt Off His Back. I wasn’t going to buy it at first, but the book cover image of an African American male smiling happily up at the young child positioned securely on his shoulder called for me to go ahead and shell out the $0.50 the library was asking.

The Shirt Off His Back by Parry "EbonySatin" Brown

Rating: (4 out of 5)

Well, here’s my review:

After a brief relationship in college, Catherine Hawkins and Terrance “Terry” Winston find themselves the parents of twin baby girls, Alisa and Ariana. The intolerable Catherine abandons the girls for a career overseas, and Terry is left to raise them. Eleven years later, just as Terry is about to expand his family by marrying the true love of his life, Jackie (herself a single parent raising twins), Catherine returns. She suddenly realizes that she needs a better family image to advance her career, and demands custody. A nasty battle ensues.

Terry, who has the support of family and friends, teams up with his best friend, Roland, a powerful attorney, to fight for his children. As Catherine pits the twins against each other, Terry struggles to keep his cool…and his family together.

At first I was confused by the swelling cast of characters (could be due to my own fog), but quickly found myself familiar, and feeling like...family. To the point of being protective of twins, "Lisa" and "Ari." I absolutely loved Terry! Some may view him as an unrealistic super dad. Great father to Lisa and Ari. Great son to Teresa. Great soon-to-be husband to Jackie. Great brother to Veronica. Great friend to Roland and Mercedes. But I viewed him as a breath of fresh air. His willingness to take the shirt off his back for his friends and family makes him my favorite male character thus far.

The Shirt Off His Back was a delight to read and true tribute to loving, responsible fathers everywhere. I would recommend this book to any and everyone looking for a great family story to warm the heart.

BEST CHRISTIAN NOVEL 2010!!!

Yippie! Joy Comes in the Mourning, my debut novel, was recently awarded Best Christian Novel 2010 by Christian Story Teller! These awards are given to the top of the line in Christian writing each year. Picked by the Board of Advisors for Christianstoryteller.com. To God be the Glory! For the rest of the best, visit http://www.christianstoryteller.com/.

LFA DC/MD/VA Lupus Tip of the Week - Lupus Oral Manifestations or Oral Cancer?

Mouth ulcers and sores located on the inner cheeks and lip commonly affect lupus patients. Most often, these manifestations resemble a red plaque area with a white border. Whether asymptomatic or irritating, ulcers and sores are treatable. Candidiasis, another common lupus oral feature, is also known as "thrush," a white fungal infection associated with medications, dry mouth, or poor oral hygiene.

In contrast, oral cancer most often occurs on the tissues of the lip or the tongue, but also found on the inner cheeks, or roof and floor of the mouth. Cancer sores start as a white plaque, known as leukoplakia, or a mouth ulcer. Other cancerous symptoms include abnormal taste, difficulty swallowing, and tongue problems.

Having lupus is NOT a risk factor for oral cancer. However, it is imperative not to mistake a common oral sore for an oral cancer sore. When you have a mouth sore or lesion due to lupus or other factors, they usually disappear within two weeks. Oral cancer does not. Call for an appointment with your dentist or healthcare provider if you have a lesion or sore of the mouth that does not go away within one month.

“I’ll Be Praying For You.”

Jesus prayed for His enemies, yet we don’t even take the time to pray for our friends.

Before I get off into saying something that makes you think I’m exempt, let me first say that I’ve been guilty. How many times have you heard or even said, “I’ll be praying for you?” And no, I’m not talking about the lyrics from the 7 Sons of Soul song by the same name, I'll Be Prayin' 4 You. I’m talking about the lie some of us Christians tell others when they’re going through a difficult time, when they need us most.

I know it may sound innocent enough, but guess what? It’s not. Telling someone that you’re going to do something and not even bothering to take the time to actually do it is compromising your integrity. It’s no different than telling a friend “I’ll call you back later,” when you know you wont because you’ve had about enough of their drama for one day.

Keeping a promise is a matter of integrity. So we must be more responsible with our words. Proverbs 19:1 states that better is the poor that walketh in his integrity, than he that is perverse with his lips, and is a fool. And we are admonished in Galatians 6:2 to bear one another’s burdens. So when we say we're going to pray for someone, we've got to do it! Passionately and from the heart. God is listening and ready to help us…pray our friends through.

LFA DC/MD/VA Lupus Tip of the Week - Managing Lupus Fog

Tips to Ease the Frustrations of Lupus Fog

-Pay attention when receiving new information. Repeat it or write it down. Verify any details.

-Focus on one task at a time.

-Take good care of your body; exercise, eat well, and get enough sleep.

-Learn memory techniques: associate a person's name with an image or repeat their name several times in conversation.

-Try to stay organized; use a year-long calendar to keep appointments, plans, contact information, and reminders in one place.

Straight from the LFA DC/MD/VA to you!

An Affirmation From a Dear Friend

Just wanted to share an affirmation from a very dear friend of mine that has blessed me tremendously. It is short, simple, and simply powerful...if you catch it.

I deny to my mind any thought that would keep me from enjoying the blessings that are mine as a child of God.

I rule out of my mind every thought contrary to peace, joy, health and success.

I have victory in spite of of the circumstances.

"Dear friends, don't be surprised or shocked that you are going through testing that is like walking through fire. Be glad for the chance to suffer as Christ suffered. It will prepare you for even greater happiness when he makes his glorious return." ~1 Peter 4:12-13

The Choice is Yours

"Anyone who can be trusted in little matters can also be trusted in important matters. But anyone who is dishonest in little matters will be dishonest in important matters." ~ Luke 16:10 (CEV)

Do you know people who are always telling "little white lies" or they "embellish" stories? Well, I hate to break it to you, but anytime you do either of these things, you're compromising your integrity. I know, I know, it sounds innocent enough, but when in doubt, the unadulterated Word of God always settles the issue.

"You cannot fool God, so don't make a fool of yourself! You will harvest what you plant." ~ Galatians 6:7 (CEV)

Know that the energy you put out there - negative or positive - will come back. The choice is yours. I say, choose to walk in your integrity.

Boss Lady Takes a Stand!

Shanté Broadus, President of Boss Lady Entertainment; wife of famed musician Calvin Broadus, better known as Snoop Dogg; and mother of lupus survivor, Cori Broadus, was recently appointed to the Lupus LA Board of Directors.

Lupus LA serves the needs of people with systemic lupus and their families in Los Angeles County. As a board member Shanté will help lead efforts on behalf of the organization, which include: promoting lupus research, awareness, education, patient services, and new member outreach.

After her young daughter's diagnosis, and discovering the disease is more prevalent among women of color, Shanté realized the organization needed a voice and her family's celebrity status could help inform people of the disease that affects over 1.5 million Americans.

Since then, Shanté and her family have been very involved in Lupus LA events and support groups, and in speaking with press outlets to help build awareness about lupus.

Hats off to Mrs. Broadus!